It had been a long day. It was a Tuesday night. We got to bed late. Sex was the last thing on my mind.
But then that goodnight kiss sparked something.
My head said, “Oh no. Not this. Not now. Not in the mood.”
But my body said, “Hold on a minute. This feels good. Why are you pushing this away?”
I asked myself if I could simply relax into the pleasure that was there, happening in the moment. I asked myself if I could “be here now” instead of at some future goal or finish line that I imagined was going to require effort.
And I could.
And I did.
And it was wonderful.
If “being in the mood” was a prerequisite, sex wouldn’t be happening. Because I’m not 30 anymore. The body doesn’t often have a demand for sex. There is no biological imperative or monthly hormone spike jumpstarting my turn-on.
I miss those days. Sometimes.
I also love exactly where I am in my life. When an invitation or impulse arises from my man, or from my own body for self pleasure, or even from nature asking me to just pause, I ask myself if I’m willing to be a “Yes.” Or I question where my “No” is coming from.
For me, saying “Yes” to pleasure, sensual play or sex is never a bad idea, never a regret. In fact, just the opposite.
Last Tuesday, post passion, floating in orgasmic afterglow, snuggling together with hearts wide open as we drifted off to sleep….it’s just yes. Yes to love. Yes to union. Yes to pleasure. And that is the Shakti Woman Way.
Saying “Yes” to pleasure is a practice. It doesn’t mean that every invitation to pleasure is right for you. Pleasure requires discernment, responsibility, awareness. Of course. We’re grown-ass women.
But constantly putting the brakes on something that’s important to you, also isn’t wise. Explore being a “yes” to more conscious pleasure in your life and see what it has to teach you. Investigate your “No” for clues about what isn’t working or what you need.
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If you feel to share more about how this post touched you, I’d welcome that too. I cherish the opportunity to be in communication with you. Thank you.
To your “YES” and with so much love,
